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December 6th 1989 is always on our mind

December 6th, 1988 was a typical day for me as a child, coming from my day at the daycare. Life seemed pretty good, fun, and peaceful.

But, this day was one of fear, anxiety, and deep sadness.

These negative emotions made an entrance in my life and I think, many Canadians, Quebecers and, especially Montrealers.

I was in preschool at that time, but I do remember exactly, coming home after this so-called “typical day” for my family and thousand of families. The face of my mom changed when she saw what was happening while watching the news. My brother was as quiet as my mom. For me, this silence was unusual.

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The silence was soon followed by my phone ringing at home. The waves of shocks started.

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I still didn’t understand why I was seeing the flashing red light of ambulances on tv or why I kept hearing the word “Polytechnique”. I asked my brother what washappening and he calmly explained to me that we didn’t know yet, but there had been a shooting.

A shooting?

That was my reaction. I was so scared. We were all so scared. The minutes passed and little by little, we learned the names of the victims. I realized early on, these were womens’ names. I heard “Maryse”, “Barbara”…. I was thinking “OMG, I don’t understand what is going on”.

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Our world changed. I went to bed, crawling in with my mother to sleep. I didn’t want to lose my Mommy! She was (and still is) the most important woman in my life. I was thinking maybe a young girl,like me, wasn’t able to crawl into her mother’s arms that night.

With December 7th, 1989 came the realization that this wasn’t a bad dream. It was a reality that could never be wiped from our minds and souls. By then, we knew more about what happened. I seem to remember my brother telling me that life wouldn’t be easy for me as a girl or, later on, as a woman, but I had to keep fighting for my role in society and be invincible.

But while he told me those words of wisdom, like he always did, his eyes were scared. I never saw my big brother, my hero, that scared. He was so sad. He couldn’t understand what had happened. He was a smart 11-year old that was brought up to be respectful to women and to admire them for their accomplishments. He always made me feel I could be whatever I wanted, even if it required stepping inside a man’s world. But on December 7th, 1989 he seemed lost and scared.

I was a mix of a girly girl (Barbie, My Little Pony, singing Nathalie Simard songs and watching her tv show religiously) with a big dose of tomboy (wrestling matches with my brother, the hardcore way, playing soccer and hockey, and not being afraid of getting dirty with my beautiful dress on). Impossible means nothing was my moto.

When I learned what had happened to those fourteen women, twelve of which were studying engineering, breaking barriers by entering a male-dominated world. At the time, the words of wisdom from my brother the night before seemed unrealistic.

On December 6th, 1990, I made a promise to myself. My promise was to never forget what happened in 1989 and to truly believe a peaceful society was something that would be achievable one day. Violence is not the answer.

Those women, like many others before and after that tragedy, lost their lives in the most horrific way just because they were women.

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This is a wake up call. Enough is enough.

 

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Ladies and Gentlemen, I’m a woman.

Ladies and Gentlemen,

We are gathered here to witness….

…another act of misogyny in the universe of professional sports.

Cam Newton was so damn stupid with his response to Jourdan Rodrigue’s question. For one day, he beat out Donald Trump for stupidest comment.

Her question was really smart. It was about route running, which is the path a receiver takes before he catches the ball, and the fact that he had made some good adjustments with it. His reaction was just plain stupid. My blood pressure suddenly rose and I started swearing like my Haitian grandmother (RIP Grandma Sue!). Like, what the f….

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If it were a man asking, he would have acknowledged him, but since in his language, it was a woman that he referred to as “female” (another thing that made me so mad), he was misogynist and disrespectful.

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For some that didn’t saw the segment, here it is:

I love talking about sports and I love to learn more about them. In order to learn, you must do research and educate yourself. I think this is a good thing for everyone. Jourdan Rodrigue did her research, and you can see that she loves to learn to. If you just listen to some of the questions that journalists ask during a press conference with NFL coaches or players, you feel like it could be as dumb as when a presenter ask to an actress on the red carpet, who are you wearing.

Bill Belichick actually wanted to be asked really smart questions. I’m not a Pats fan at all, but if someone is willing to listen and notice the thought put into the questions we ask, I’m all for it!

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I’m really surprised at Cam Newton. Especially after only a week earlier, he took a stand for Colin Kaerpernick. Now, he does a 180, and just puts his foot in his mouth.

I applaud Jourdan Rodrigue having done her homework. She is obviously a smart and passionate journalist.

I was never a big fan of Newton because I always felt that he was lacking certain sportsmanship qualities, but now, I just don’t respect him. Superman, yeah right…

Cam Newton

There are many journalists, lawyers, doctors, scientists, mechanics, you name it, that are women and they are facing these situations on a daily basis. Hopefully someday the conversation will change.

We are strong women

It’s 2017 damn it!

Femmes de rêve, femmes d’espoir heureux

 

Ah ah, vous pensiez que je vous avais oublié et que les margaritas m’avaient rattrapé… Hélas non!

You would taught I would forget you guys and the few maragaritas cocktails were catching up on me… No no

Aujourd’hui, je décide de laisser parler les photos.

Today, I will let the pictures speak by themselves.

Ce sont des femmes fortes, courageuses, drôles et passionnantes que j’admire. Je n’ai pas pu mettre tous leurs photos comme ma maman, mes grandmamys, mes tantes, mes mentors au boulot. À vous les femmes de ma vie, merci de continuez à “shaper” la femme qui évolue en moi.

They are strong, courageous, funny and passionate women that I admire. I wish I could showcase my mamma, grandmothers,aunts, mentors and friends but I will respect their privacy. You know who you are. To all the women in my life known and unknown, I would like to thank you for shaping the woman I am becoming everyday.

Carolyn Bessette-Kennedy (CBK juste un mot en anglais: Ethereal

J’ai l’impression que le meilleur était à venir pour Carolyn.

Dans un autre post, je parlerais de cette femme que les médias ne connaissaient pas du tout et qu’elle était totalement l’opposé de leur description. Carolyn était une vraie amie pour son entourage. Dans une vie, on devrait tous avoir notre Carolyn.

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I got the feeling was best to come regarding Carolyn. The media put a false representation of the person she was. When you hear her friends talking about her, she was the definition of the perfect loyal friend. We all need in our lifetime a friend like Carolyn.

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Two books to read by her closest friends. You will laugh and you will cry. What remains from Carole Radziwill talk about her friendship with CBK.

But the love story between her husband and herself is magnificent. I won’t tell to much but I started to read again and it did hit me since my love is fighting the same fight as Anthony. This infamous July 1999 was a very tough summer for Carole. She lost her best friend, JFK jr and the love of her life all basically at the same time. While reading this book, you will feel the strength that kept her going.

Fairy tale interrupted from RoseMarie Torenzio is another good book to read. She was John Kennedy “Jr” assistant and one of his closest friend. Her honesty and her openness to share her story make this book really beautiful journey to read.

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I realize while reading  both books that Carolyn was very lucky to have fiercely good friends like Carole and RoseMarie. Amen to sisterhood.

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Maya Angelou

Une vie si enrichissante et des poésies si touchantes.

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She had such an amazing life that it is inspiring. Her poems are so touching and beautiful. Such a beautiful soul.

Maya Angelou website

Michelle Obama, Sophie Grégoire-Trudeau, Lauren Bastide, Dominique Anglade et Régine Chassagne

Ces femmes sont des combattantes à mes yeux. Tous ont eu des épreuves, des défis et parfois des tragédies qui ne les ont pas empêcher de continuer à affronter leurs combats.

Une a dû se faire une place dans un monde où les hommes ont souvent eu le monopole, une autre femme s’est battue contre des troubles alimentaires et n’a pas eu peur d’en parler avec les médias et le monde entier.

Et celle qui a dit à toutes les jeunes filles américaines que c’est le temps de prendre notre santé en main tout en acceptant comme nous sommes dans la joie.

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Il y a une de ces femmes qui a  quitté une carrière pour une émission très populaire et qui était une rédactrice en chef hors-pair pour un magazine très populaire pour créer un podcast tout à fait féminin. Et durant son podcast, elle demande à ses interlocutrices comment est leur relation avec leur utérus.  J’appelle ça avoir de l’audace avec un grand A.

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Some of them cherish their mother tongue language that is Creole and to be really proud to be a Haitian and singing proudly so the whole world can hear it. In each of those women, we can find a part of ourselves. Let continue to encourage them in their charities that they are doing it with love and passion.

Kanpe foundation website

Lee Radziwill

One sentence to describe Lee Radziwill. Elegance, an adorable sense of humour and this eternal class and aura about her. We always talk about Jacqueline Kennedy but me, Lee was and it’s still the case until now, my favorite Bouvier sister.

Jane Goodall

I’m in love with Jane Goodall. I can’t never thank enough my 2nd grade teacher when she show us a documentary about her and her love for champazes. It was actually a precious gift this documentary that I will treasure for the rest of my life.

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Emmanuelle Alt, Franca Sozzani, Garance Doré

Emmanuelle Alt est la super cool éditrice en chef du Vogue France. Son côté super cool and laid back se font ressentir à travers de chaque page. Et il y a un petit grain de sel d’humour qui peut être subtile qu’on y retrouve également.

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Vogue France site web

Franca était un pilier dans le monde de la mode. Elle a complètement revitalisé Vogue Italia a une époque où être différente des autres n’était pas la bienvenue. Le Black issue restera à tout jamais un exemplaire légendaire. Elle nous manque énormément à tous.

Garance est trop cool et en regardant ses vidéos Pardon my French, vous tombez déjà sur son charme. Lire son livre et son blog, vous avez l’impression de chiller avec  une copine.

Site web de Garance Doré

Angelina Jolie

Her heart of gold, her goal to help others, her audacity to make movies about subject that we may not have found comfortable talking about it make her in my mind a gentle warrior.

Like us, she didn’t have it always easy but when she is always fighting for her children, for her cause and for her conviction. Sa beauté intérieure est contagieuse. Merci Angelina.