Goodbye is the hardest word to say. Rest well Kristoff

Written by Sabine Demosthenes

MONTREAL- Yesterday around 11:45am, near lunchtime, my brain needed a little break so I went on The People Magazine website to read something light, for just a few minutes.

I couldn’t have expected the news I read. I read the very heartbreaking news that Kristoff St. John had passed away. I was speechless! I couldn’t even scream an “OMGwhat!?” I was thinking I must be having a very bad dream. This beautiful soul, that a big majority of us grew up watching on Different Word as Denise Huxtable’s boyfriend and of course, as the unforgettable Neil Winters on The Young and The Restless. He was clearly a big part of my life for the last thirty years.


His warm smile, his humility and his sense of humor were legendary! He wasn’t afraid to show his true character as an authentic soul. He was the kind of person you could have a real heart to heart conversation with. And he was such a good actor from he was a young kid.


I wished I could have had the honor to just laugh and cry with him.


A few weeks ago, I had an emotional conversation with my dear love about the loss of a child, a terrible thing some parents have to deal with. He told me about the time one of his son’s best friends committed suicide. While he recalled the funeral and how distraught he was, he started to cry. He said he could never forget the sadness afterward when he met the parents of this young man. Until this day, the parents were never the same. He said they never got their smiles or their joy for life back. And I saw his sadness while my hubby describes what awful feeling it must be for the parents since he is himself a loving father of two wonderful men.

A few years ago, Kristoff lost his son that he deeply love with all his heart.

His son committed suicide. For a parent, it’s the ultimate nightmare to be the one burying your child under any circumstance.  Kristoff wasn’t shy to talk about his grief and his struggle. Earlier in the post, I mentioned his capability to be a humble and sensible soul. This man was simply an angel on Earth for us.

Now, he is resting his wings, as we remember him, and as we cry and smile with all the joy he brought us as a brother figure, as a friend, and a hell of an actor. I hope I will witness we will all meet again a nice little chat between Kristoff and Jeanne Cooper.

Episode # 9906

Kristoff, one day, we will all see you again. You will prank your best friends.

The Fab 4

You will slow dance with your love, you will smile with your daughters and with your son.

And maybe, we will have the honor to catch the sunset and tell some jokes.

Rest well.

Father and Son



The Queens of Hip-Hop

Written by Sabine Demosthenes

MONTREAL – On this really cold Wednesday morning, I must listen to a playlist that will make me forget about the harsh, cold days we have had for a couple of weeks now. This so-called “winter wonderland”.

While browsing my playlists on my iPhone, I decided to start this week with my Queens of Hip-Hop’s playlist. On this list, you won’t find any Cardi B (who’s that?!?) and no Nicky Minaj (who’s that?!?). Seriously, with all the legendary ladies we have in Hip-Hop, I just don’t get how come those two singers (and I’m being really nice here) are so popular. They are mediocre, at best. Even my grandma Sue (sorry grandma) would be a better rapper than those ladies. My grandma would have dropped some words of knowledge with a big attitude.

Anyhow, my playlist is an ode to the icons of Hip-Hop music. The first track was the perfect one to start this kick-ass, goddess of a playlist.

Let me present you with Queen Latifah classic’s Unity.


They don’t make these kinds of anthems anymore, but this oldie is a classic.

The children of the 70s, 80s and even early 90s were so lucky for witnessing so many classics hits during those decades.


Back to the main topic.

The next song on my playlist was Doo Wop (That Thing) from Ms. Lauren Hill. The debut solo album of this “The Fugees’ family” alumnus, The Miseducation of Lauren Hill, was until now, one of the greatest albums of all time.


So far, this playlist is on fire!

Of course, the playlist includes some Salt’N’Pepa too. In the 80s, there were two bands with strong women that I was a die-hard fan of. Salt’N’Pepa and Bananarama (I’m a Venus, I’m a Venus, your desire … oh damn! I was five and singing those lyrics).


Salt’N’Pepa was the first female rappers I saw. For a second, as a young girl, I wanted to be a rapper. My big brother told me I really didn’t know how to rap though (damn you, big brother).

There is no Queens of Hip-Hop playlist without some MC Lyte. Like, it’s impossible!


Not putting a Ruffneck track on this list would probably get me disowned by my brother, haha. She is one of the pioneers of Hip-Hop artists and truly, I hope one day that she will be inducted into the Rock N’Roll Hall of Fame.


Of course, I got some Missy Elliott and Erika Badu as well. When I listen to Missy’s hit The Rain (Supa Dupa Fly), omg, I have a beautiful throwback party in my brain! I remember the first time I heard this song and how mesmerized I was by the creativity of Missy Elliott. I never took drugs in my life, but from that moment, I was so hooked on every piece of music Missy Elliott created like it was cocaine.


I may write an even longer post about this fabulous playlist, but I will spare you reading a full chapter of my reminiscing about the good old times of music history.

Can we steal Marty McFly’s car from Back To The Future and return to the ’90s, please?

I’m pretty sure we have some magnificent, talented women who are creating fabulous music, but for some dumb reason, clueless and insignificant songs are being made by a stripper and a woman whose persona I don’t even understand the purpose of keep playing everywhere! There is nothing intelligent being said in those songs and foremost, nothing empowering are being communicated to the next generation of young, impressionable human beings.

I’m too damn mad, so I better listen to my playlist and get empowered by my Queens of Hip-Hop……



Love, Gilda

Written by Sabine Demosthenes

MONTREAL – I was so young when I first saw Gilda Redner on the screen and it wasn’t as one of the comedians on Saturday Night Live (SNL). Nope. It was actually while I was watching the 1982 classic film Hanky Panky with Gene Wilder on tv. It was a winter day in December 1987, like the song California Dreaming from The Mammas and The Papas.

The first thing that hit me with Gilda was the fact that I could relate to her with her sense of humor I found her to have this mix of innocence and sarcasm. With her big and beautiful smile, she could get away with anything.

Gilda Radner

For me, at 4 years old, Gilda was my favorite actress because of the one movie I saw her. I didn’t know she was unfortunately sick. In my mind, she was eternal. Two years later, I was a little bit older and I religiously watched Mary Hart on Entertainment Tonight (ET) every day. This was when I learned that Gilda had cancer. During one of the nights I watched ET with Mary Hart and John Tash, I learned that my favorite actress had passed away. She would no longer make fun-loving movies.

As the years passed and I grew up, Gilda reserved a really nice surprise for me. I knew that she was one of the first comedians on SNL. YouTube hadn’t been created yet, but thank God, they had reruns of old SNL episodes on NBC sometimes.

During those specials episodes, I met Roseanne Roseannadanna and I started to make of parodies of Roseanne at school (ok, there was a student, who I won’t name, that threw a really painful snowball at me when I did my imitation of Roseanne).

My favorite character was Emily Litella. Since I first saw Emily Litella, I was enamored. I named my Barbie dolls after her. This character was based on her real-life nanny when she was a young girl, Elizabeth Clementine Gillies. Gilda made my pre-teenage years and my teenage years a lot less painful.

Why am I writing about Gilda today?

It’s because I saw a fabulous documentary on CNN, on January 5th called Love, Gilda. It was so touching, funny and inspiring! There were things I didn’t know Gilda was struggling with early on such as her eating disorder. In her autobiography, It’s Always Something, she spoke frankly about her eating disorder struggles, the loss of her father who she loved so dearly and her illness. The documentary was directed by the talented Lisa Dapolito (a quick shoutout). It’s a real treasure, this documentary.

Love, Gilda

My favorite part was when I saw Gilda and Gene’s dog coming to wake her upon her hospital bed. Gene was right next to her and you could feel the love they all had for one another (including their nice dog whose name I forgot).

She finally met her prince charming.

Gene and Gilda

If you are searching for a bittersweet and well-done documentary, I strongly suggest grabbing a box of tissues and watching Love, Gilda.

Smily Gilda

I would like to end this post with what Lisa D’Apolito is hoping for us, the audience, to capture during this beautiful documentary:

The film is made up of Gilda’s voice narrating her story, her performances that give insight into her life, interviews with her friends, interviews with contemporary comedians about how she inspired them and her ‘inner’ voice as written her journals.

My hope with Love, Gilda is that the audience will go on their own journey with Gilda and that people who love her, discover more about her and people who have never heard of her, are inspired by her story and grow to love her too.

  • Lisa D’Apolito

Lisa D'Apolito

We do love you Gilda.





The best band in the world! Why?

Written by Sabine Demosthenes

MONTREAL – It took me a few days to write about the best damn show of the year, which I saw at the Bell Centre last Thursday, September 20th, 2018.

You may have heard of a certain Paul McCartney, Rusty Anderson, Brian Ray, Abe Laboriel Jr and Paul ‘Wiz’ Wickens. If not (and that would be a major surprise!), I strongly recommend going on YouTube to watch some videos, see one of their concerts live (or on iTunes) or buy their latest album: Egyptian Station. It is actually the number one album in Canada.

It was my second time seeing them live and you know what, it felt like it was my first time.


Simply because they have the ability to give the best concert you will ever saw and make you feel part of it. Even if it’s been more than 15 years of being together as a band and they have played in the biggest arena in the world, you feel this special feeling watching a fun band in a small club.

Where do I begin my review?

First of all, the sound quality was perfect. The sound crew are probably the best there is. You could hear each instrument and each lyric with such clarity. I’m sending my shoutout to Paul McCartney’s sound crew!

Second, I was happily surprised to see some new members such as….. (I am waiting on Macca’s team to give me the names of the horn players)

The best part was seeing a band having fun and being happy doing what they love. I still get chills with just the thought of it.

I won’t write all the songs they played, but I will be all nostalgic and say it was a beautiful marriage between nostalgia and the future.


They played the Fab Four classics. They jammed with the sound of Wings, but they played some of the new stuff on their brand new album. They played with such ease considering it was 3 hours non-stop. Paul spoke in French on top of it all! He was very good.

Ok, I’m must admit, I cried like a baby during the rendition of Something. Like big time! But I am not ashamed.

Rusty and Brian were giving us some serious guitar riffs and the band did a little shoutout to Jimy Hendrix.

Wix was, as always, the ethereal keyboardist. I was pretty close to the stage and could see Abe and Wix exchanging some funny faces between them, having the biggest smiles on their faces.

Oh oh! Speaking of Abe. One sentence: The best drummer of the 21st century. I rest my case.

For me, there are probably two bands in the world that seem to be so alive and so happy on stage. Bruce Springsteen and The East Side Band and Paul McCartney and his boys. I saw some Bruce Springsteen shows on DVD, but I haven’t gotten the chance to see him and his band live. So for me, if I have to choose between the two of them, I’m team Macca.

For 3 hours, I didn’t think of what a certain person by the number 45 is tweeting or the current state of our beautiful planet and mankind. I was in a beautiful bubble with thousands of fans and my valentine being happy.

Being the music lover that I am, I imagined that I was jamming with them (It’s on my bucket list – jamming with Rusty, with Godin’s electric guitar).

As we left after the concert to go back to our little world, I was wondering if we would ever feel this beautiful, happy feeling of love again as that was what the concert was all about.

I guess we still can as Paul and his boys showed us.

Legacies are never lost

Do you ever get this feeling?

Sometimes, a certain movie gives you this sense of empowerment and you feel invincible because of one particular actor?

Brandon Lee was this actor in my youth. At home, when I was just a little tomboy, we watched a wrestling show and a Kung-Fu movie every Saturday. It was a serious ritual in our household. Bruce Lee was, in a way, a big part of our family. At that time in the 80s, Brandon Lee, Bruce Lee’s son, was starting to make some waves as an actor.


He was gorgeous and in my five-year-old mind, I was convinced that I would marry him and we would fight the bad guys together (I wasn’t aware that movies are typically fictional… anyhow). He was my Romeo.

Brandon drawing

As I grew older and more aware, I became addicted to Entertainment Tonight. I remember looking forward to seeing the movie that would later be one of my favorites but was symbolic of my life at the time.

Brandon the Romantic

The Crow perfectly represented my state of mind during that period. So badly, I wanted to find a hero that would inspire me to be invincible. Despite being a feisty and sporty kid, I was facing some bullying at the time. Brandon was my hero.

His interview on the set was inspiring for me. He was so calm and philosophical.

Brandon Lee last interview video

I was looking forward to the movie, daydreaming about the script and everything. I felt I just needed wings to fly freely without fear.

Drawing by Eric Draven

In 2018, when you watch Brandon’s interviews, his poetic way of telling us a story and explaining the meaning of life is actually a beautiful legacy that he left for us.

The beauty of legacy is that it can go on and on, from generation to generation.

Brandon’s sister is one of the people that is making sure the legacy of her family will still go on. Like me, Shannon is the baby sister to her big brother.

Lee Family

She was close to him and probably got teased by him, as is the main criterion of having a big brother. We know the expression ”Brotherly love” but Bro and Sisterly love are the best one.

Shannon is proud of her father’s and brother’s legacies and of her own.

Shannon Lee 2

Shannon Lee Ted Talk Be An Action Hero video

Shannon is creative, dynamic and special. She is a very proud sister.

What is next for Shannon?

Shannon Lee

Actually, you should check out her podcast: The Bruce Lee Podcast. It’s insightful and really well-made.

When Brandon died, I felt lost. I would no longer experience his way of explaining something as he did in that interview with such grace.

But, years later, I read this quote from Brandon somewhere and it’s been one of my mantras ever since:

”Immortality is to live your life doing good things and leaving your mark behind”

 Brandon Lee quote

Legacies are never lost.

Brandon Lee Chronicle Collage

Written by Sabine Demosthenes


They Will Never Tear Us Apart Michael

”We could live

For a thousand years

But if I hurt you

I’d make wine from your tears

I told you

That we could fly

Because we all have wings

But some of us don’t know why’

Never Tear Us Apart lyrics from the Kick Album 1987

Never Tear Us Apart music video

Michael Hutchence gave me wings. When I saw an INXS videoclip on TV, I wanted so much to be just like him (I know, I was a young girl and he was a man). I wanted to captivate everyone attention like Michael did with mine. I was mystified by him.

M. Hutchence

Michael Hutchence was my ultimate man. I was a big U2, Depeche Mode and New Order but I was a die-hard INXS girl and this is until now.

INXS New Sensation live at Wembley

INXS was part of my youth, my rollercoaster teenage years. But 1997 wasn’t an easy year for me. I was being bullying at school, I still find comfort when I came home or listening to my walkman listening to music and by INXS album on a cassette.

But the music and the dancing seem to have stopped for me on November 22, 1997. My world stop turning one more time when I heard my magical man wasn’t around anymore to make me dance.


There is no other frontman like Michael and with his brothers, they were unstoppable.

INXS 1988

His magnetism, his sex appeal (oh yeah), his voice and his charisma make him a unique and exceptional singer.

If you are asking what my favourite INXS songs are, it will be hard to answer. They all have a special meaning for me. I may not have been the only person having this dilemma.


When I watched Michael’s interview, I realize even when I was a child that it is okay to be different and to be wild and free.

Michael Hutchence

He was a free spirit, a wild horse with a sensitive soul. I saw myself in him. I felt less like an outsider.

Michael H

When he is singing those lyrics, Mystify, Mystify me! Eternally wild with the power, to make every moment come alive, that is what I’m talking about. You can feel his soul.

20 years without his gentle soul seem like yesterday everything was less magical without him. He did leave a big hole and we still feel it.


I wish I could thank him to make me want to dance again wishing he was next to me. He did play a big part of my youth and he is even more present in my adulthood.

I will tell you finally my favourite INXS song that I still play in a piano. Here we go!

INXS Beautiful Girl live

Beautiful girl,

Stay with me…


INXS official Facebook Page

INXS40 website

INXS Twitter



En parlant au téléphone hier avec ma chère maman, je lui ai demandé cette question:

Manmy, je sais que j’ai une très grande admiration pour Mitsou mais est-ce que tu pourrais me confirmer quand j’étais petite, il me semble que je ne vivais que pour Mitsou en chantant toute la journée Bye-Bye mon Cowboy?

Elle répond avec beaucoup d’enthousiasme au bout de la ligne:

Oh oui, tu chantais tout le temps ses chansons et tu me disais que tu voudrais devenir comme elle quand tu seras plus grande, tu admirais sa personnalité et sa force de caractère.

Mitsou 80's

30 ans plus tard, mon admiration de jeune enfant s’est transformée en une admiration que j’ai pour une femme qui est un modèle de femme accomplie à mes yeux. Elle est belle ”inside out” et elle dégage une authenticité (vous remarquez que c’est une de mes qualités préférées qui m’attirent vers quelqu’un) contagieuse hors-pair.

Son site web est géniale et m’interpelle. Ce sentiment quand tu navigues une page web et tu as l’impression de parler avec une de tes copines de filles (malgré que là, tu lis), j’adore!!!

Mitsou est une excellente animatrice que ça soit à la radio qu’à la télévision. Elle est versatile et très attachante. Oh, un petit commentaire. Son site web est bilingue!!!!!!

That’s awesome!

Ambassadrice de Lise Watier Cosmétiques, elle a été directrice artistique du magazine Clin d’Oeil, elle a laissé sa marque en étant une des plus grandes chanteuses Pop de sa génération dans la francophonie et elle a son propre site web qui me fait beaucoup penser à un de mes sites préférés qui est celui de Garance Doré Atelier Doré.

P.S. Garance Doré est à Montréal. Je capote mais vraiment je capote à un point que mon chien me regarde d’une drôle de façon. Voici une photo de Mitsou avec la grande Geneviève Borne (une autre de mes femmes inspirantes) et de la reine des blogs sa majesté, Garance Doré. Bon, je devrais me calmer un peu le pompom.

OMG Garance, Geneviève et Mitsou

Revenons à notre chère Mitsou.

Ce que j’adore avec son site web est que je ne m’emmerde jamais. Je répète. Je ne m’emmerde pas du tout à le lire. Parfois, il y a des sites qui sont dessinés sur mesure pour un type de public en particulier. Ce n’est pas le cas avec! Enfin, un site de bien-être québécois qui ne parle pas juste des mamans qui doivent jongler travail et famille car ce n’est pas du tout mon cas. De lire sur Osheaga, Adieu moustiques (pour ceux et celles qui me connaissent, vous savez que j’ai horreur des moustiques), le TDP et autres sujets très captivants m’ont interpellé. Pour moi, c’est ça un bon site web et c’est que j’essaie de faire avec The Chronicle.

La deuxième saison de Mitsou et Léa sera de retour. Can I get a woohoo!!! Elles rencontrent des femmes inspirantes de différents milieux qui sont des femmes déterminées et fortes malgré tout.

Mitsou et Léa

Je suis très contente que dans ma vie autant que je trouve beaucoup d’inspirations envers des femmes et des hommes qui proviennent des quatre coins de la planète, je suis doublement reconnaissante de ces femmes de chez-nous qui font en sorte que j’ai le goût de foncer comme elles l’ont fait malgré tout! Mitsou en fait certainement partie de la bande et je suis très fière de la femme qu’elle est aujourd’hui.

Je l’ai toujours été depuis 1987 même quand je m’imaginais de chanter en duo avec elle dans notre cuisine en tenant un crayon de couleur Prismacolor (old school). En 2017, on lâche les crayons Primacolor et on continue à admirer cette femme qui a un coeur grand et qui continuera à nous inspirer.

Merci  Mitsou!